Sex addiction
has attracted star celebrity status literally and figuratively in today’s
modern era. Everyone has an
opinion from the guy on the street to the medical professional, all propagated
and pulsated by the mass media. Call it Sex Addiction San Diego,
sexual compulsion or get down and dirty bad behavior, our politicians, sports
stars, and Hollywood celebrities are the popular representatives of such
blatant public arousing interest. In American society where sex, like alcohol,
is socially acceptable and encouraged, and sexual images proliferate, it
becomes more challenging to distinguish between normal sexuality and excessive,
or abnormal sexual behavior. The proof becomes obvious as the individual life
spirals out of control physically, mentally and/or with regard to social or
occupational functioning.
Whether spending hours on the computer finding increasingly better and varied pornography or searching the bars at night for the hot fling, or hitting up varied massage parlors for 'happy endings' over time the outcome is an individual who feels lousy about himself or herself. To escape from the negative feelings and thoughts, the obsessive-compulsive chase continues, hence the ability to momentarily displace the original undesirable emotion. The sexual experience is not about intimacy, but rather to seek pleasure. As the sexual compulsion continues, generally it takes more time to find increasingly varied scenarios of sexual behavior to maintain the intensity of the “sexual high.” Once the conquest has been achieved and the brains chemical rush of transitory euphoria dissipated, the original negative emotion returns coupled with greater undesirable emotion attached to the repetitive behavior. This “cyclic behavioral syndrome” is the fuel for sexual addiction compensating for psychic pain. The “secretiveness” of the out of control sexual behavior can add to the psychic pain, intensifying fear, guilt and shame if the truth should be revealed.
Obsessive and compulsive sexual thought and behavior is often an expression of depression, stress, inability to trust others, fear of intimacy and vulnerability, negative thinking about one’s self and/or feelings of inadequacy. It follows that generally sexual compulsive behavior is the “acting out” of individual psychic distress. The fear of intimacy and human connection may be mitigated momentarily by obsessive sexual fantasies and compulsive sexual behaviors while superficially inflating a sense of self-affirmation. Feelings of inferiority, inadequacy and worthlessness magically disappear while sexually preoccupied. The sex addict’s desperate search for the fulfillment of unmet childhood needs ends in disillusionment! The inflated sense of self, bolstered by denial and narcissism, is like a Mickey Mouse balloon suddenly pricked by a sharp needle. The cycle spins faster and faster until it crashes!
Whether spending hours on the computer finding increasingly better and varied pornography or searching the bars at night for the hot fling, or hitting up varied massage parlors for 'happy endings' over time the outcome is an individual who feels lousy about himself or herself. To escape from the negative feelings and thoughts, the obsessive-compulsive chase continues, hence the ability to momentarily displace the original undesirable emotion. The sexual experience is not about intimacy, but rather to seek pleasure. As the sexual compulsion continues, generally it takes more time to find increasingly varied scenarios of sexual behavior to maintain the intensity of the “sexual high.” Once the conquest has been achieved and the brains chemical rush of transitory euphoria dissipated, the original negative emotion returns coupled with greater undesirable emotion attached to the repetitive behavior. This “cyclic behavioral syndrome” is the fuel for sexual addiction compensating for psychic pain. The “secretiveness” of the out of control sexual behavior can add to the psychic pain, intensifying fear, guilt and shame if the truth should be revealed.
Obsessive and compulsive sexual thought and behavior is often an expression of depression, stress, inability to trust others, fear of intimacy and vulnerability, negative thinking about one’s self and/or feelings of inadequacy. It follows that generally sexual compulsive behavior is the “acting out” of individual psychic distress. The fear of intimacy and human connection may be mitigated momentarily by obsessive sexual fantasies and compulsive sexual behaviors while superficially inflating a sense of self-affirmation. Feelings of inferiority, inadequacy and worthlessness magically disappear while sexually preoccupied. The sex addict’s desperate search for the fulfillment of unmet childhood needs ends in disillusionment! The inflated sense of self, bolstered by denial and narcissism, is like a Mickey Mouse balloon suddenly pricked by a sharp needle. The cycle spins faster and faster until it crashes!
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